Sunday, March 9, 2008

I need a hobby

While having a conversation with my dear husband recently, it was brought to my attention that I have no interests. On some level I was already well aware of this fact, but you'll have to trust me when I tell you that it's a rather jarring experience to have someone tell you such a thing in such a blunt manner.
Kevin and I have been struggling for some time to find a way to spend more quality time together. The basic problem seems to be that the things that he finds utterly fascinating do not tend to interest me in the slightest. I try to be a good and dutiful wife and listen when he tells me all about his latest D&D campaign, but to be completely honest I really hear about 1/8 of what he says about it. The other topic sure to get him excited is Poker...which I don't have an issue with watching on tv, but unlike my spouse, once I've seen an episode of High Stakes Poker I really do not feel the need to watch it again. On the other side of the coin, I do not participate in any sort of activity that he could even begin to try to feign an interest in. I go to work and play with children all day, after which I come home and play with our daughter, make dinner, get Ciara ready for bed, and then settle in to watch TV until I finally feel like I can fall asleep (usually roughly 11pm).
At Christmas time I tried very hard to find a game that we could play together that we would both enjoy. I found this game called Wits & Wagers that seemed to fit the bill perfectly. It combines his love of gambling with my flair for knowing completely useless information. However, we hit a snag in that the game is actually a "party game"...in other words, it requires that I get the house clean enough that we could actually invite other people into it to play with us. I'm sad to say that this is not a likely scenario terribly often. Kevin also tried to find games for us to play, but so far his choices have left me feeling confused and/or bored to tears.
So anyway, as I was lying awake late last night it suddenly occurred to me that I really should make an attempt at finding something that interests me. I'm not even slightly coordinated athletically, so any sort of sport is completely out of the question. One of my friends recently encouraged me to try scrapbooking, but I just can't seem to get excited by the idea...plus it's not cheap. I do believe that I have some artistic sensibilities, for example, I think that I could really enjoy jewelry making. However, I'm really looking for something that would require me to get out of the house on occassion and to go make some new friends, and it also needs to be an inexpensive hobby as the fundage is pretty low these days.
Such a dilemma. I am really at a loss for ideas. I enjoy reading quite a lot, but book clubs seem silly to me. I really like to talk to people, but I don't think that could be considered a hobby. I feel like I'm an interesting person, but can you really be truly interesting when you have no interests of your own?
I think if I could find something that excited me and made me feel motivated then it would help me to stay motivated in other areas of my life, and that is something that I desperately need to do. If anyone out there has any fabulous ideas for me, I'm dying to hear them!

1 fabulous responses:

Carol said...

Shannon, love the new format of your blog! I forced myself to start quilting last year cos none of my hobbies were sociable really. I hope you find something you enjoy!!